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- Caitlin (29) had no bridesmaids, just a maid of honor, but several guests ended up as de facto bridesmaids on the big day, since they had an intimate 15-person affair in New York City with an after-party at their apartment.
- Bethany (23) had six bridesmaids: Her sister, sister-in-law to be, and four friends. The couple had 80 guests in in a ceremony at a Quaker meeting in Pennsylvania and the reception was in her parents' side yard in New Jersey.
- Kellie (24) hurt some feelings when she chose her seven bridesmaids, but decided on her sister and cousin as co-maids of honor, and friends from different friend groups. They had a Catholic ceremony and hotel reception with 145 guests in Georgia.
- Janet (26) had three bridesmaids: her sister, sister-in-law and a bestie. They helped her through two ceremonies – one in Australia and another in New York State.
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in a press release, study author Brian Boutwell, Ph.D., associate professor of criminology and criminal justice and associate professor of epidemiology at Saint Louis University, said that previous research has suggested that we have a mental mechanism that helps get us through tough times in life. He explained, "It suggests people will recover; the pain will go away with time. There will be a light at the end of the tunnel." To look into this theory, Boutwell and his colleagues looked at why and how we fall out of love and breakup. First, they looked at what happened in the brain when people fall in love.
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Through MRI scans, the researchers found that the same parts of the brain that become active with cocaine use are activated by romantic attraction. This "may help explain the attachment that often follows the initial feelings of physical infatuation with a potential mate. Think of it as that initial feeling of falling in love, when you want to constantly be around the other person, almost in an addictive way," Boutwell said. So when it comes to breaking those feelings, it may be comparable to asking an addict to kick his drug habit.
Researchers then looked at the brains of former addicts, and found that the brain changes significantly, developing a larger volume of gray matter. He explained:
"We might argue that different regions of the brain act in a way that once that addiction has been severed, then help to facilitate a person moving on and finding a new partner. A person might initially pursue their old mate — in an attempt to win back their affection. However, if pursuit is indeed fruitless, then the brains of individuals may act to correct certain emotions and behaviors, paving the way for people to become attracted to new mates and form new relationships."Interestingly, researchers also found in the same study that men and women tend to break up for different reasons. Men are wired to be more particularly sensitive to infidelity (and jealous), because from an evolutionary sense, they want to avoid raising children that aren't their own. Women are more sensitive to emotional infidelity. But of course sometimes, both genders have similar motivations to end a relationship.
Next step to either prove or disprove Boutwell's hypothesis would be examining the brains of men and women who have rebounded after a breakup and fallen in love again, to see how their brains have changed throughout the process. An individual's ability to move on and find new love can also be influenced by environmental and genetic factors — which may explain why, even though we're all capable of picking ourself back up, some have a tougher time than others.
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