There’s a certain stigma that guys always have to be the ones to make the first move. And if a girl ever makes the first move, they’re coming on too strong. But, why does it always have the be the guy to initiate? A girl can-and should- absolutely be the one to make the first move. But because we’ve been taught since we were young that it has to be the guy, it can be hard to know how to make the first move. First and foremost, it’s important to remember you are beautiful and confident and are capable of initiating something with a boy.


Building the courage to talk to a guy first can undoubtedly be scary, especially if you’re new at initiating a conversation. However, it’s crucial to be confident in yourself! Remember that you deserve the attention of any guy. Remind yourself of that before initiating a conversation and go from there.

Find common ground

Maybe it’s the mutual friend you both have, perhaps it’s your shared love of music. Whatever it is- finding common ground is excellent for conversation-starting. That way, you find something you are both comfortable talking about so there are no awkward pauses in the conversation.

Compliment them

Saying something as casual as, “I really like the shirt your wearing!” can go a long way when you’re initiating a conversation. Complimenting a guy will let them know you are interested in them and are noticing them. It also is a great way to start a conversation as you can build on from it.

Be casual

Even if you’ve had a crush on them for months and never made a move, starting casual is ideal. You don’t want to come off too strong right away as that could scare someone away. Just be relaxed and suggest hanging out, seeing a movie, or grabbing a bite to eat.

Be yourself

The most important thing about making the first move with a guy is being yourself! You don’t want to pretend to be someone who you’re not, and you need to trust that your crush is going to like you for you. And if they don’t, they’re not the one for you and are a waste of your time. Be yourself, and the right person will like you for that!