We all go through positive and negative periods in our lives. Sometimes we feel on top of the world and optimistic about anything that comes our way. But other times, we couldn’t feel worse and can’t help but be cynical about everything. Both emotions are normal! But, a negative mindset can really impact the people around you. And it’s challenging to surround yourself with someone who is always negative. A pessimistic outlook is only going to hurt your relationships. So if you’re feeling like your partner is developing a negative attitude, it’s essential to talk to them. Here are a few ways how you can handle a relationship with someone who is continuously negative:
Don’t judge them
You might find it difficult to not judge someone who’s continuously negative: “Why can’t they just stop?” It’s not always that easy. If you seriously want your partner to be more positive, you can’t judge them. Sometimes our negative attitude is beyond our control, and judgment is only going to push that person further away. Don’t assume you know what they’re going through.
Remain a positive light
Two negative energies are just a disaster waiting to happen. It’s a lot to ask to be positive ALL the time, but for the most part, remain a positive light in your relationship. Hopefully, your positive energy will rub off on your partner and inspire them to change their outlook.
Respond to them calmly
Chances are, someone who is being negative is already emotionally vulnerably, so responding aggressively to their negative remarks is only going to make them more upset. Instead of yelling at them to stop being so negative, go about it more calmly and suggest sitting down and talking through why they feel this way.
Give them time and space
Someone going through a negative period in their lives isn’t going to get over it overnight. They need time. Even if you’ve tried everything, talked to them calmly, remained positive, and they still haven’t made an effort to change- you need to give them space. We all grow and change at our own pace, and you can’t force someone to change their mindset if they aren’t ready to.
At the end of the day, think of yourself
You can only do so much to help someone. At the end of the day, if your partner’s negative attitude is seriously impacting your life, you have to take a step back and think if it’s worth it. You shouldn’t risk your own happiness if your partner is making no effort to change. That might mean taking a break and having space, or it might mean breaking up altogether. That is a decision you have to come to on your own, but it’s important not to forget about yourself.