One of the things we should all work on in the new year is self-love. Loving yourself and putting yourself first is absolutely necessary, yet it often gets neglected. Which is why it’s important to prioritize yourself this year. Putting yourself down is only going to reflect that attitude out. Loving yourself and being positive is going to attract people towards you. A lot can come from self-love: confidence, positivity, and all-around happiness- to name a few. However, getting started on the long journey of self-love can be difficult. So if it’s part of your New Years resolution to love yourself more, here is how you can get started:

Start the day on a positive
When you wake up, start the day by telling yourself something you love about yourself or something good you did. “I’m delighted I helped my friend in that situation,” or “my hair looks good today” are both excellent.

Don’t compare
Comparing yourself to others can bring your mood from a 10 to a 0. You are your own person, and you are unique and amazing, there’s no need to compare what you have to what someone else has. We’re all individuals!

Worked out five days in a row? Pat yourself on the back. Finished the book you had meant to finish for months? Treat yourself to something nice. Big or small- accomplishments are accomplishments, and they all deserve a celebration.

Embrace who you are
The worst thing we can do is to try to pretend to be someone we aren’t. Don’t hide behind your true self; embrace who you are what you love! You should be proud and happy of the person you are- sure, we all have things we’re working passed, but it’s essential to embrace the person that you are.

Surround yourself with positive people
If you’re always hanging around with people who put you and the world down, it’s going to be extremely difficult to get in that positive headspace of self-love. Surround yourself with people who lift you and want to see you succeed and watch how much further you go.

Be patient
Remember-things don’t happen overnight. Everything takes time, especially building self-love and confidence in yourself. But if you try hard enough, it will happen. And when it does happen, you’ll be thankful for the journey.

Be grateful
Even on our worst days, there’s always something to be thankful for. We’re allowed our moments of weakness and negativity, but remember to meet those moments with it’s opposite. If you’re having a bad day, take some time to think of all the things you have to be grateful for. I promise it will boost your mood.

Forgive yourself
Often we are too hard on ourselves. Maybe something we had been looking forward to didn’t go exactly to plan, and we’re blaming ourselves for it. Blaming yourself is one of the worst things you can do. We all make mistakes, and those mistakes can be worked past.

Say no
While it is vital to push ourselves outside of our comfort zones, it’s equally important to say no. Don’t force yourself into doing something just because you feel like you have to. It’s necessary to say no sometimes, and you should never feel bad for it.

Put yourself first
Putting yourself first will make a world of difference. Whether it’s your mental health, physical health, or emotional health- putting yourself first is so important. To learn to love yourself, you have to learn how to put yourself first.