Should You Sleep in Two Beds?

30 to 40 percent of couples choose to sleep in different beds.

Sleeping in separate beds sounds like what Grandma and Grandpa did to maintain modesty, but sleeping apart is more common than you might think. A 2013 Canadian study found that 30 to 40 percent of couples choose to sleep in different beds. Another survey, conducted by with the help of SurveyMonkey, showed that almost half of the respondents reported sleeping apart from their partner at least once, while 14 percent of couples said they sleep separately every night. That may sound like their relationships are falling apart — but the opposite may be true. ”Everybody is operating on a sleep deficit — whether it’s because you’re stressed or you’re pregnant or have kids,” pointed out Rachel Sussman, a relationship therapist in New York City and author ofThe Breakup Bible. ”“But in order to operate optimally, you need a good night’s sleep. One of the many things that might be keeping you from that is sharing the bed with someone. You just don’t sleep as well when you share a bed.

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  • T starkey

    Forget separate beds, we sleep in separate rooms. Between the snoring, rustling, him getting up in the middle of the night, farting, coughing and gagging. I couldn’t sleep. I don’t go around telling everyone that we don’t sleep in the same bed, because you get the old “Oh you must not love each other” or “I could never sleep without my Husband right next to me”. Well I can’t sleep with mine next to me.

  • Annie Horne

    My parents did this the entire time I was arround (my mom passed away when I was a kid) my mom and dad had different work schedules and my mom liked to sleep with the tv on and I think the glow bothered my dad. My BF and I do this too but it’s because he works night shifts certain months and I can’t change my sleep schedule to stay up all night, it makes my insomnia worse so I sleep when he’s at work and try not to bother him when he’s sleeping during the day so the bedroom is off limits if I’m sick with a migraine and need a nap I usually sleep on the couch so I don’t bother him. During the time he works days we sleep together usually unless I can’t sleep then I leave the bedroom so I don’t wake him and he does the same.