We all get annoyed at the people we love. It’s just a part of life. Loving someone means loving all of them- even the not so great parts. Often, those annoyances are things we can just let slide and not actually have to talk about. When you spend a lot of your time with someone, you start to pick up on all their small habits. And some of those habits and traits might not align with yours, and you might find yourself getting annoyed with them. It’s hard to know what to do when you are annoyed at your partner and if you should actually talk about it. Still, these are 5 ways you can stop being frustrated with your significant other:
Understand that you take part in being annoyed
This is very important to understand because you being annoyed at your partner is not their fault. If you’re annoyed in something that your S.O. is doing, and you’ve never vocalized it to them, how are they supposed to know it bothers you? Your emotions being annoyed with them are only your emotions until and unless you tell them.
Decide how serious the trait actually is
Before you bring it up with your partner, decide if the annoying habit is actually worth turning it into a more significant argument. Something small, like how you get annoyed that your partner doesn’t put the cap on the toothpaste after using it, is probably not worth bringing up. But if it’s something more serious and something that’s weighing on you, then you should definitely say something. But, you have to figure that out on your own.
Don’t try to fix your partner
Maybe the trait that you find annoying in your partner isn’t something they can fix. Perhaps that’s just who they are. And for you to be with them, you either have to get over that trait or end the relationship. You shouldn’t try to “fix” your partner if what you find annoying is just a part of who they are. You just have to work on getting used to it.
Take a break
Often times, when we’re annoyed with one thing someone does, all of a sudden, everything they do gets annoyed. The way they chew, the volume they speak at, even the way they walk. If you suddenly find yourself getting frustrated with everything they’re doing, it’s time to take a timeout. Step away from the situation, away from your partner, and remind yourself that you’re not actually annoyed at everything they are doing. Space apart from each other may actually help you realize how much you love them.
Remember the good traits
When you date someone, you have to take the good with the bad. Maybe you hate how they brush their teeth or the way they cook, but you also love the way they support you and shower you with love. In the moments that you’re finding yourself annoyed with your partner, remind yourself of all their good traits. Chances are, their good qualities will outweigh the bad.