Ignoring someone’s calls and text messages, or ghosting as it’s often called today, is a far too common way of ending a relationship. It might be one of the worst and most immature ways to break up with someone, by just simply ignoring them and not reaching out. Unfortunately, in a time when technology is so prevalent- ghosting is quite common. If you find yourself being ghosted (don’t worry, we’ve all been there) there are a few ways you can go about handling it.

If you’ve been ghosted, a million things are probably running through your head. And because we’re human, our minds often go to the worst-case scenario, which makes the situation that much harder than it already is.

Why did they suddenly stop talking to me? Is it something I did? Did someone tell them I wasn’t right for them? All of these are questions that will probably cross your mind. Unfortunately, because ghosting means you get ignored- there really won’t be any answers.

You might be inclined to reach out to them and ask them why they stopped talking to you. It might have all been a big misunderstanding, and they didn’t mean to ghost you at all. Or, they might keep not responding. Ouch.

If the latter happens, you might want to keep reaching out until they respond. However, this is not the best idea. Is someone who ghosts you, with no explanation, really someone you want to be with? Is it worth it to get an explanation from them at all?

Ghosting can be a real tell of character. If you can spend any amount of time with someone, lead them to believe you like them, and then cut them off cold turkey- you should probably check yourself and your morals.

Although confrontation can be scary and nothing sounds worse than telling someone you’re not interested in them anymore- you’re better off being honest. And if you’re the one being ghosted, remember your worth and that he/she isn’t the one for you. You deserve someone who is going to respond to you, care for you, and be there for you no matter what- not someone who’s going to ghost you.