Getting over an ex is never easy. It doesn’t matter if you were the one who broke things off or the one who got broken up with- it still hurts. Every person grieves differently after a breakup. Some people get over a relationship in the matter of a few days, other people might take months or even years to get over a relationship entirely.

There’s no right or wrong way to get over a relationship because every relationship is different for every person. If you’re finding yourself in a state of limbo after a relationship ends, here are some ways you can finally get them out of your thoughts and move on:

Unfollow them

Although unfollowing an ex on social media might seem immature, it can help tremendously in getting over a relationship. Social media can lead to unhealthy habits and feeling bad about yourself, especially when you can watch your exes every move with the click of a button. And even if they notice that you unfollow them, they’ll understand that seeing everything an ex is doing after you break up makes moving on that much harder.

Surround yourself with friends

Chances are, you’ll feel especially lonely after a breakup. You just ended things with not only your significant other, but you also ended things with your best friend. And you might be confused about what to do with all the time you used to spend with them. Surround yourself with friends, family, and plans to keep your mind off the breakup. When you realize that you’re truly happy being around other people, you’ll start to move on from the relationship.

Consider a rebound

Going the rebound route isn’t for everyone. I’m a big believer that everyone needs the proper grieving process- but you can still properly grieve while having a rebound. But, make sure you acknowledge that your rebound is just that. It’s a person who might help you get over your relationship, not a new person to get into a relationship with.

Give it time

Most people don’t get over a breakup in a matter of days. As badly as you might want to get over the person and the relationship in one day, you have to give yourself time. Things don’t happen overnight- and neither will getting over your relationship. You need to give yourself space, and every person needs a different amount of time to get over a relationship.

Reflect on the relationship

Reflection can be tough. And it can be especially tough the longer you put it off. Even if reflecting on the relationship is the last thing you want to do, it’s a necessary part in grieving a relationship. Make time with yourself and reflect on the person who you were in the relationship and the person you’re going to be now that it’s over. Reflect on the happy times, the sad times, and everything in between. And once you finally feel as if you’ve reflected on the relationship enough and feel confident in your new, single self- you’ll realize that you have moved on.