You may notice the word narcissist is used a lot in today’s society, usually to label someone that is self-centered and ‘loves themselves’; however, narcissism is much more than this. Narcissistic personality disorder consists of a pattern of arrogant thinking and self-centered behaviors, and a lack of consideration and empathy for others and an excessive need for admiration.

Words typically used to describe a narcissist are:

  1. Controlling
  2. Manipulative
  3. Selfish and self-centered
  4. Demanding
  5. Patronizing
  6. Cocky

Dealing with a narcissist can be draining, harmful, and can even impact your mental health, especially when you’re putting up with their behavior regularly. Here is how to recognize a narcissist.

Self Importance 

One of the defining characteristics of a narcissist is grandiosity, which is essentially an unrealistic sense of superiority. Narcissists believe they are unique, and better than others, and expect this to not only be recognized but rewarded in their treatment by others.


Narcissists live in a fantasy world, which they believe revolves around them. They often exaggerate and lie about talents or achievements. If they ever discuss relationships or jobs, it’s always about what they contribute and how amazing they are.

Exploiting Others 

Narcissistic behavior also involves them exploiting and manipulating others without feeling any guilt. As they cannot empathize with others, they can easily take advantage of others without feeling bad or ashamed. Although this can sometimes be done with malicious intent, often, it is because they are completely oblivious and don’t consider how their behavior affects others.

Bullying and Belittling 

As narcissists have to be in control, they dislike when anyone is confident or appears to be a threat. Their natural reaction is to patronize, belittle, and put this person down to make themselves feel powerful.

Always Be Aware 

Narcissists are often incredibly charming and can easily lure you in by creating a ‘fantasy’ world but always try to be aware of this. If you recognize any of the above traits or behaviors, then it’s likely you’re dealing with a narcissist, and it’s crucial you put yourself and your mental health first.