To get the relationship to a point where both you and your partner are happy, you have to communicate. If there are any issues in the relationship or if there is something you’d like to change about it, you should talk with your partner. It can feel demotivating when you expect your relationship to be more romantic, but it feels like your partner isn’t on the same page with you. These are some ways in which you can let your partner know you need more romance in the relationship.
Your Partner isn’t a Mind Reader
We often tend to assume that our partner should know what we want and need without telling them about it. This is the wrong approach. Despite how long you have been together, it is essential to have good communication and to openly tell your partner what you want him or her to change. Don’t think they don’t care, because they just might be clueless and think that everything is fine.
If you don’t want to start a full conversation on the topic just yet, you can drop some clues on what you would like your partner to do for you. Tell your partner how a massage will relax you after a long day at work or how you love when you get flowers. Watch them take mental notes. However, if this doesn’t work, it doesn’t mean your partner doesn’t care about you. You might need to be more direct.
Reward Your Partner
When your significant other does something romantic you quite enjoy, you should let them know how much you’ve liked it and make her or him feel loved. This will reinforce the behavior. They will associate the gesture with what they got in return and will do more of it.
Have a Conversation
The best way to solve any problem in a relationship is to talk openly about it with your partner. Wait for the right time, when your partner is free to speak and talk about the things you would like him or her to change. Make sure you aren’t being pushy and don’t accuse your partner of anything. You should find a solution that makes both of you happy.