According to a new study, feminist mothers tend to endorse “attachment parenting,” which places children’s needs above parents’. Surprised? You’re not the only one: the study of more than 400 women found that even feminist moms who practiced this time-intensive, hands-on parenting style thought other feminist moms wouldn’t.

If we think about this for a minute, though, it shouldn’t be so shocking, after all. Being sensitive, responsive and consistent toward your children can help them develop secure attachments, which are a good predictor of future relationship health. And that’s true whether or not you identify as a feminist!

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