Aug 26, 2015
Really Good Skincare[caption id="attachment_141956" align="alignnone" width="500"] La Mer[/caption] You know about La Mer. The Rock uses La Mer. Rich people sometimes know exactly what they're talking about, and damn does their skin glow. Cost: $310 for 2 oz
The Latest Luxe Beauty[caption id="attachment_141955" align="alignnone" width="510"] Armani[/caption] Celebrity makeup artists constantly tout Armani's Maestro Foundation, and this year the brand launched an anti-aging tinted formula that they guarantee will "improve skin radiance." Armani, we trust you. Cost: $200 for 50 ml
Regular HaircutsOften, it seems we save money by skimping on self-care. Especially when you live in a major city, a haircut can seem like a luxury that's just out of reach. Whether your hair is long or short, you're supposed to be getting it trimmed at least every 6-8 weeks. The average cost of a women's haircut in New York City is $71 to $73. For healthy hair, that means you should be getting it cut about seven times a year. *Laughs until I fall over, and I work in beauty* Cost: $497, before tip
Beyoncé's Vegan Delivery Service[caption id="attachment_141949" align="alignnone" width="700"] 22 Days Nutrition[/caption] Earlier this year, Beyoncé partnered with her trainer Marco Borges to create a vegan meal delivery service that's organic, gluten-free, and soy-free. A complete Challenge Kit comes with 22 days worth of meals, long enough to break you of your meat-eating habits according to Borges. If you were a man, you could live like Beyoncé – oh the irony. Cost: $629.76
A Freaking MarathonBetween the training, the gear, the wearable fitness tech, and the time taken away from work to run, marathons cost more than the entrance fee – and even that is often prohibitively priced. Unless you win the entrance lottery, will you spend your $221 on running 26.2 miles, or on Thai delivery orders over the next six months? Cost: $221 (entrance fee for NYC marathon)
Every Product That Kim Kardashian UsesIn a recent beauty workshop, Kim Kardashian revealed that her makeup routine consists of products from MAC, Anastasia, and Kiehl's – all fairly affordable on their own, but expensive when you buy them all at once. Oh, and it also takes 50 steps. Why not treat yourself to her entire beauty regimen with some of that extra cash your male deskmate makes? Cost: $1,200
Designer Lipstick[caption id="attachment_141964" align="alignnone" width="500"] Tom Ford[/caption] A solid lip color can change your mood, and whipping a designer one out of your bag at a strategic time certainly isn't gonna hurt your self-worth. Cost: $52
Mood Lipstick[caption id="attachment_141966" align="alignnone" width="500"] Make Up For Ever[/caption] A signature lipstick is its own brand of happiness, but you may feel like coral on Monday morning and black on Thursday night. With some extra bucks, we could splurge on those extra fun statement shades that we won't wear everyday, like Make Up For Ever's Rouge Artist Intense in Pearly Violet or Bite's Opal Crème. They may not fit with every outfit, but when they're right, they're so right. Cost: $150 allotment
10 Classes at SoulCycleThe infamous workout is just as expensive as it is fun and good for you. Skip the first time $20 ride and go straight for the 10-class pack. Cost: $320
Regular Cleaning ServiceIf I had the cashflow, the first thing my lazy self would do is book a regular cleaning service. Your surroundings set the tone for your daily life, and you just can't take a bubble bath in a grimy tub. In NYC, this will run you about $90 a service/every two weeks. Cost: $1890 before tip
Loubs ;)[caption id="attachment_141973" align="alignnone" width="500"] Christian Louboutin[/caption] As one of my colleagues said, "I just want to buy these brand new instead of scoping out consignment shops for cheap ones." Picture yourself, you know, asking for a raise while wearing these. Cost: $675
Private Helicopter ServiceCatcalling is a nightmare and walking home alone isn't safe. Turn the pitfalls of our gender into a fun-filled luxury by chartering your own private helicopter to take you to destinations near and far (but probably mostly near, how far can helicopters go even?) Cost: $2,190 for 10 flights
Charity!Equal Pay isn't the only battle. 1 in 4 adult women will be the victim of severe physical violence by an intimate partner in her life; The National Domestic Violence Hotline has helped millions of women connect with the resources to escape abusive relationships. Donation: $1,000
That Transcendental Meditation CourseIf I had a nickel for every celebrity who's claimed they "owe it all to meditation," I'd probably be able to afford the TM intro course. The TM folks are either very kind or very wily with their "convenient" payment plans. Either way, the dang thing is incredibly expensive, but it did change Katy Perry's life. Cost: $960
Your Own Private, Personal HBONow Subscription[caption id="attachment_141982" align="alignnone" width="700"] HBO[/caption] Won't it feel good to stop using your ex's brother's password? You're your own woman and you can watch Charlie's Angels without anyone knowing about it. Cost: $179.88/full year
A Life-Enhancing TreatmentEveryone from Derek Hough to Lindsay Lohan has been touting the benefits of age-defying benefits of cryotherapy, a treatment where you spend three minutes submerged in a chamber with air cooled by liquid nitrogen. It's been said to increase energy, help relieve muscle soreness, and reduce cellulite. Let's give it a shot! Cost: $240 for a package of 3
The Entire Essie Fall Line[caption id="attachment_141984" align="alignnone" width="700"] essie[/caption] Wouldn't it be fun if new nail polish wasn't a splurge? Essie's bold new fall colors, from espresso to bronze, would match perfectly with a wad of cash. Cost: $51
A Lifetime Supply of Wipes[caption id="attachment_141987" align="alignnone" width="500"] Neutrogena[/caption] Stop dragging that beat-up box of wipes with your everywhere and keep a spare set at the gym, at the office, and in your car. Cost: $6.99 each – $111.84 for 15 There you have it folks: $10,876 of conspicuous consumption with a side of equality. A girl can dream – until then, we have lipstick. READ MORE: "Women's Tax" Explains Why Your Shampoo Costs More Than Your Boyfriends
Aug 24, 2015
Aug 14, 2015
If you’re struggling with healthy eating, managing stress is of course a great solution. (Poor eating habits are hardly the only harmful effect of undermanaged stress.) But that’s not easy, and besides, research also shows that willpower doesn’t actually go all that far in helping us manage our diets. We’re incredibly susceptible to our environments.
It might not sound like it, but this is in fact excellent news! Why? You can get yourself to eat more healthily by just changing what’s around you. Read on for a few brilliant ways to circumvent your tendency to sabotage your food choices and portion size choices.
- Keep treats out of sight and reach. You’re much more likely to snack on food if you can see it. One study found that female office workers ate the most chocolate if it was in a clear, within-reach container, and the least chocolate if it was in an opaque, out-of-reach container. So don’t make that cookie jar glass, and definitely don’t keep it on the counter: store those goodies in a cabinet (and maybe even toward the very back)!
- Use a small plate. The bigger the serving vessel, the more you’ll eat, even if you don’t like the food all that much. So serve yourself on a small bowl or plate. If you’re genuinely hungry when you’re finished, you can always go back for more.
- Choose your plate color wisely. In one study, participants ate less cookies and popcorn when they were served on red plates. But other research shows that when the color of the food matches the color of the plate, we eat more. So go for that red plate—unless you’re eating pasta with tomato sauce.
- Pick restaurants with softer music and lighting. It won’t change what you order, but it’ll change how much you eat: research shows we eat 18 percent less in the very same restaurant if the music and lighting are softer. For that matter, try turning down the lights at the dinner table at home—and, if you’ve been blasting the tunes, turn the volume down, too!
- Train yourself with an avatar. Okay, this one’s a little more obscure. But if women play a video game in which an avatar slims down when she eats carrots and gains weight when she eats candy, they’re more likely to eat less candy. The key? The avatar has to look like the player. This also works for exercising: watching personalized avatars run on a treadmill gets us up and at ‘em, too. So if you’re a gamer, inspire yourself by customizing your avatar to look like you!
Aug 12, 2015
I showed up to the Emergency Room bleeding profusely from my vagina last January. It is now August and that profuse bleeding only just stopped a few days ago. No, it's not because I had a condition that could not be remedied easily. I had a uterine polyp. Okay, well, a kinda big uterine polyp. But that wasn't the biggest problem: the gynecologists I encountered while seeking treatment were.
The on-call OBGYN who first treated me at the ER did an exam, saw the polyp, but told me I could wait a few more days to come to her office to have it removed. That was my first interaction with a gynecologist, but sadly it would not be the last. After going through hell to try to secure health insurance that her office accepted with no luck, I finally gave up and found a new gyno, who also did not immediately remove the problem polyp because she claimed it was too big and would require surgery.
One very uncomfortable hysteroscopy-- a procedure that allows the doctor to look inside of your uterus which feels pretty much like you are a turkey being stuffed and basted-- and one other gynecologist who did nothing to help later, I found a wonderful lady doctor by the name of Dr. Zaheda Muhammad who removed the pesky polyp in a basic in-office visit. After months of bleeding and discomfort and ping ponging between doctors, I finally had my life and my body back.
My story sucks. But more important than its sucky-ness is its obvious utility; my story can be used as a cautionary tale full of lessons that any woman should know when seeking the best possible medical care. Here are 5 Signs That You Have A Great Doctor (based on my experience with a polyp removal).
1. A great doctor loves his/her work and the way they interact with you will show it. Of the four gynecologists who treated me, two of them had horrible attitudes. It was obvious that they were over-booked, overwhelmed and over their jobs, because I felt like our appointments were always rushed and my questions had not been answered.
I most certainly never felt that way in Dr. Muhammed's presence. She consulted with me for quite some time and patiently listened to my thorough rehashing of events leading up to my visit with her. After some deliberation and seeing how desperate I was, she decided to just go ahead and remove the growth.
"If you think you are bleeding too much after the removal, don't hesitate to go to the ER," Dr. Muhammed said, "and make sure to tell them that you are my patient. Any questions they have, direct them right to me no matter how late or how early." It was obvious she loved her job and took pride in her work, which of course made me feel great to be her patient.
2. A great doctor works in a great facility. There were obvious differences between the four offices I went to seeking treatment. The office owned by the doctor who did not take my insurance was very upscale and welcoming. Her receptionist was kind and helpful and tried to work with me to help me secure insurance, even though that sadly didn't work out. Two of the other gynos worked in chaotic clinics that were obviously disorganized and seemed somewhat like a disaster. As desperate as I was to get the polyp removed, I was still immediately put off by those facilities.
Dr. Zaheda Muhammad's practice was centrally located near a hospital (Jersey City Medical Center), in a building with several other practices. The space was clean, quiet, organized and the receptionists were pleasant. It was easy to tell that the facility was held to a high standard, which made me feel that much more comfortable seeking care. Though I'm sure there are some fantastic doctors who just happen to work in offices that are mediocre, I think it's safe to say that generally a doctor's workspace reflects his/her level of professionalism and commitment.
3. A great doctor lays out the facts and lets you decide the best treatment option for you. The first doctor that saw me in the ER and diagnosed the problem -- a uterine polyp -- which was the culprit for all of the heavy bleeding told me that the growth would be no problem to remove in her office. I begged her to remove it then and there, but she assured me that her office would be better suited for the procedure. I was never able to received treatment by her, because she it did not accept my insurance.
The second gyno I saw, however, claimed I would need to have surgery in a hospital's operating room because the growth was so big she thought I would bleed out if she tried to take it out. When I explained that I had been seen already by a doctor who told me it could be removed in-office, she plainly told me that was not an option. She ordered the hysteroscopy and referred me to her colleague that did gyno surgeries, but was going on a vacation and was essentially unavailable for quite some time.
I did some research and decided not to wait. I found another gynecologist and explained that I simply could not deal with the bleeding anymore and wanted treatment immediately. She elected to remove the polyp during a routine visit, per my request, but warned me that if there were any complications I would have to go to the Emergency Room. I accepted the warning and decided to move forward with the procedure, which she respected. In a matter of minutes, my vagina was brand spanking new.
4. A great doctor takes your discomfort seriously.
Here were some of the statements not so great doctors made in an attempt to minimize my discomfort:
"It's already been months, I'm sure you can hold on for a few more weeks."
"Stop exaggerating, I'm sure it's not so bad."
"You are bleeding a lot but you should only go to the ER if you feel light-headed or like you are about to pass out."
Here is how a great doctor responded to my concerns:
"I don't know how anyone could leave you bleeding like this for months. That's just horrible," Dr. Muhammed said with a sigh while doing the examination. It was right then and there I knew she would do everything she could to get my life back to normal as soon as possible. A great doctor would never minimize or trivialize your pain or discomfort.
5. A great doctor does not view patients as dollar signs. While there is no way to know for certain why that ER OBGYN did not remove the polyp when she did the exam and saw how much bleeding it was causing -- the reason she gave was that it would be more comfortable in her office, but I wasn't buying that -- I would not be surprised if she was simply trying to make more money by having me as a personal patient. Patients are not dollar signs and should never be treated as such. A great doctor would never put off your treatment to make more money for his/her self.
"The doctor you saw in the ER really should have took care of it then and there," Dr. Zaheda Muhammad said. I completely agreed. It would have certainly spared me months of distress.
Aug 19, 2015